self conflict again

again, im questioning myself. am i doing the right things?
some of them are frustrated by the late arrival of our opponents today. but you know, i am really really rational. we do have our turns that we are late for something. and whenever this happens, someone else is waiting. and they may feel the same too.
so, i did not feel frust for this. the only thing i got frust today is the sudden cancel of our dota games. luckily, somehow they came in the end and we played.
first game, they only had 4 players, so one of us went to their team. i drafted the game and we won like... you know, rape. owning at early game and pushing and killing everywhere. second game, finally they were full, then i let another fellow drafted. it was a hard game but one of them disconnected so we remake halfway before the result was obvious. third game, we let another fellow drafted and... i got what i want to play lol and we won also.
so now, i have two questions.
am i right not to feel frust over their late arrival?
am i right to pass over my leadership?
i know it is better to feel nothing after they were late. just understand their situation and forgive them. thats the best. but, what do others think? and then, what do others think about me?
and i know, for heavens sake if i remain as the leader, we would be better. but then, it would go against someones will and interest. although this is also my interest, and is what i am famous for, but if i dont let go this, how will others think about it?

ok ok, i think thats enough for my self conflict again.
but i just want the world to become a better place lol.